NLP Matching

People who enjoy rapport with each other tend to behave like each other in various ways:

- Physiology
o Matching body posture and gestures
- Voice
o Matching voice characteristics like tone, speed, pitch, intonation, accent
- Language
o Matching choice of words used in speech like colloquialism, dialects
- Thinking style
o Similar preference for hearing, seeing, or feeling styles
- Beliefs and values
o Sharing similar concepts of what is considered true and what is important
- Experience
o Shared experiences like home town, school, emotive events like natural disasters, wars
- Breathing
o Similar in depth and speed of breath.

A loving couple enjoying rapport will unconsciously display matching behaviours in most or all these areas.

NLP Rapport

People tend to like others who are like them.

Like likes like.

Matching behaviours is a sign of good rapport, while mismatching behaviour indicates lack of rapport.

For example, two people enjoying rapport, such as a loving couple, will display matching behaviours which they are unconscious of.

When there is rapport between two people, there is a greater acceptance of suggestions from each other.

People with the ability to establish quick rapport with others have an unconscious competency in matching behaviours of others.

We can achieve the same results by modelling and practicing the strategies of people with natural rapport skills.

NLP Presupposition: The Meaning Of Our Communication Is The Response That We Get.

People will respond to what they think we mean, which may or may NOT be an accurate interpretation of our intended meaning.

If we want people to respond appropriately to what we say, then we need to be constantly aware of other peoples' responses to what we're saying.

We need to adjust our communication accordingly, rather than just assume that they understood what we meant them to understand.